Posts Tagged ‘ saying goodbye ’


Mar 1st, 2013 | By | Category: Senior Moments Blog

The occasion to say goodbye is one of the experiences of aging all of us must struggle to meet. My 93 year old mother has begun to find ways to articulate how to do that for herself. She recognizes the need to identify those to whom saying good bye needs to be intentional. She is aware of the various steps, not so numerous because of her long life, that will nonetheless need to be laid out.

Among the most difficult features of this experience is saying farewell to those who have meant and continue to mean the most. She will need to articulate to as many as will be available her deep and abiding affection while consciousness allows the opportunity to say what she wants to say in her own words.


Jan 13th, 2012 | By | Category: Senior Moments Blog

It was not the most celebratory of holidays. It was fraught with bad news moments when telephone calls and emails notified us of the death or impending passing of a friend or a loved one. It almost seemed epidemic. Following on the contact came the necessary task of putting travel arrangements together, notifying others, packing and making ready for a strenuous journey which would involve about 12 hours. At such times, there is no excuse giving, backing out, or pleading helplessness. Being there with those you care deeply for and about is the only mandate to be accepted.

As I traveled several hundred miles to be present for the memorial service of my father-in-law, I was mindful of others who had died in the last few days: A member of a congregation I had served, a friend who had undergone a long and lingering fight with cancer, a friend who had lost her husband. It was not a happy time. It was a time for grief, a moment

Seniors: How to Say Goodbye from Far Away

Mar 7th, 2011 | By | Category: Senior Moments Blog

At Christmas last year, there came a greeting card and a short note from a dear and abiding friend. She had lived in the same community with us, was a part of the church, and developed into a steadfast supporter.

I tucked the card and note in a place where I could be reminded to reply and to chat. Before that happened, however, news came of her death. She was in her eighties, so it needn’t have been a surprise. She was not experiencing any life threatening illnesses, but she simply passed away.

Now no longer is it possible to say goodbye, from far away. She had moved from Arizona to Missouri, her home state. Family and long time friends reside there. She had, it seems, done as many do. She had gone home to die.