Posts Tagged ‘ end of life issues ’

Seniors: How Do You Know Who To Trust?

Jun 29th, 2011 | By | Category: Senior Moments Blog

How do I know I can trust my family? How do I know that in the face of impending need, an emergency, planning for the end of my life, ordinary day to day living, my family will be there for me, acting in my best self interest? Are there any indicators that something might be brewing which would raise serious questions of trustworthiness?

A recent death brought all these questions to mind. It was not an immediate family member, but a close friend and companion of our family member. Their acquaintance had developed years ago, becoming a friendship which lasted beyond the deaths of both their sp0uses. For more than decade, they had become fast companions, enjoying the presence of each other, while never living together. Their relationship was deep and abiding, genuine and meaningful for both of them. In the intervening years she had moved into an assisted care facility. He maintained his own home, just scant minutes away. They lunched together each week. They shopped and took care of

End of Life Agendas and Salade Nicoise

Jun 13th, 2010 | By | Category: For Senior Women

As we were driving to the airport this morning, my sisters and I remembered other pieces of  Dad’s jewelry that hadn’t been given to my hospice sister for ‘safe keeping’.   One of my sisters said she thought that the gold chain was a gift to Dad from his wife, our step mother,  and perhaps […]

No, We’re Not Moving

May 24th, 2010 | By | Category: For Senior Women

Reality walked out the back door with Dad and his wife, our second mom, when any discussion about a move to their ‘home state’ was on their plate.  It seemed for this 94 year old demented  father of ours and his 82 year old wife, that they would be able to handle the severe cold weather, the […]

For Senior Women: Talking About Death

May 2nd, 2010 | By | Category: For Senior Women

Dad wants to return to his roots to die.  He’s very adamant about it and extremely clear.  He wants to return to the state in which he was born and spent the first 50 years of his life.  The fact that he can even verbalize this feeling amazes me.  But I can attribute it to […]