Posts Tagged ‘ elderly parents ’


Apr 14th, 2013 | By | Category: Senior Moments Blog

Jerry has been writing the past couple of weeks about death and dying, loss of loved ones and the importance of family and friends when one is in grief. His mother, Hazel, died Thursday, April 11, 2013. She lived in our home these past six months, with Jerry and Sharon being the primary caregivers. Hospice accepted Hazel in to their tender and competent care in late October, 2012.

More than a year ago, Hazel requested that we take her into our home when we knew death was approaching. She wanted to be cared for by Hospice and us, and she wanted to die in our home. Our agreement was an easy one because we participated in caring for Sharon’s mother 30 years ago, and


Sep 30th, 2011 | By | Category: Senior Moments Blog

Usually twice a day now, morning and afternoon, we have established the pattern of contacting my 91, almost 92, year old Mom. We go in to town with considerable frequency to check on her and spend a little time with her. Her health, energy, balance and cognitive issues seem to be more and more compromised. As pointed out in a recent article, her situation is not imminent, in terms of dying, but it is necessary we stay alert.

More and more of us are facing the need to be aware of our elderly parents’ welfare. They are living longer and facing more and more challenges as they do so. Assisted Living facilities offer care for those who have some remaining independence. Skilled Nursing is ordinarily the next step, when fewer abilities enable one to take care of themselves quite so well. Every phase is a challenge. Depending on the issues involved with your loved one, more and more attention is demanded as their issues of care needs increase.

Caregiving for Elderly Parents

Jul 21st, 2011 | By | Category: Senior Moments Blog

A daily discipline is staying in touch with Mom. She is 91, lives in assisted care, sometimes stays close to her room and doesn’t venture afar. Persons who are in their 90’s need the protective assurance and reinforcing companionship of persons who care, look after them, and check on them with frequency.

Persons, i.e. family members who live nearby, are fortunate. Having the opportunity to drop in on unannounced occasions is a good way to be sure a loved one is receiving adequate, personal and consistent care. Usually, in any facility, it is the squeaking wheel that gets the most attention. That is surely true in care facilities. Although that can backfire. Too many demands, too much need for care may prompt less attention than more.

Mom is an independent soul. She

Seniors: Warning Signs of Elder Abuse

Mar 18th, 2011 | By | Category: Senior Moments Blog

Has someone you care for and take care of shown uncharacteristic evidence of withdrawal and shyness? Is there a growing sense of unease that seems to have surfaced? Is there a strange fear that has crept into behavior and attitude?

If so, these may be signs of abuse. Elders who have undergone adjustments and changes in their health and life sometime are victimized by those who are charged with their care.

This may range from family members to employees or attendants in care facilities, and sometime even within their own home.

Getting to the bottom of this

On The Road With Elderly Parents

Jul 21st, 2010 | By | Category: For Senior Women

We left early on a Friday morning for the Midwest.  My father was finally on the road, returning to his home state.  I’m quite sure that his agenda was to find a home they could live in and make that important move back to his roots where he wanted to die.  We started making plans […]

Dementia: A Loss For Everyone

Jun 6th, 2010 | By | Category: For Senior Women

Agendas…as my sisters and I were taking our hospice-expert sister back to the airport this morning, she commented, “I wonder if I’ll ever come here without an agenda.”   She’s the one who, a year ago, started talking with Dad and his wife about ‘dying’.  Each time she makes her monthly pilgrimage to spend a […]

Dealing with the Effects of Dementia on Decision-Making

May 30th, 2010 | By | Category: For Senior Women

One of the difficult pieces of dad’s dementia has been listening to his ‘onceinawhile’ verbal attacks.  They haven’t been frequent, nor have they been  vicious, both of which my hospice sister says could change.  One day, recently,  I went with my father to the gas station to fill his car.  He willingly and almost automatically […]