Posts Tagged ‘ senior friendships ’

BEFORE MY VERY EYES

Sep 3rd, 2012 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

The trip was made in order to wrap up some business details for our move from Texas to Arizona. It included a final walk through of the house, during which I met the previous owners. That was a “Before My Very Eyes” experience, because I had participated in purchasing the house without having even seen it. We visited with our realtor one more time. She is my spouse’s sister, so it was more than a business visit, it was an occasion for gratitude and celebration.

Before my very eyes, another venture was turning into an adventure. We were beginning our transition, making a shift from one environment to another, anticipating the tasks and choices and deliberating the decisions which would be a part of this new undertaking.



EARNED CREDIT: A STUDY IN FRIENDSHIPS

Feb 7th, 2012 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

One might think that friendships, accumulated over the years, would finally spend themselves into oblivion. That, however, is not the way friendship works. Friendship is like earning credits, and every time you encounter someone you haven’t seen in a very long time, you end up spending some of those earned credits. You cash in some of the value of that friendship, even though you haven’t drawn upon it in a very long time.

Meet someone on the street, in a store, at an event, that you haven’t seen in a long time. Immediately, your memory bank clicks in for a a name, a memory of recent encounter, a favorite story that helps identify that person. A handshake, an embrace, some quickly chosen words, appropriate to the reunion and all of a sudden the earned credit of years past, experiences enjoyed, moments remembered are made real and brought to life again. You earned that relationship and each of you holds something special about it that helps create the



Seniors: When Good Friends Die

May 23rd, 2011 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

It seems always a shock to learn of the death, particularly sudden death, of a good friend. That happened awhile back. It took me quite off guard. Only four years my senior, I had always looked upon him as a model, a mentor, a good and wholesome human being. He was quick witted, warm, a hale fellow well met.

He had served in elective office for twelve years. When he left that post, he was all done with politics. But, had he chosen, he would have been easily elected again. He was trustworthy, cared for his constituency and was a gentle man.

A farmer, just out of high school a year, it would become his role to follow in his father’s footsteps upon his death. He has a lovely spouse, a dear well respected brother and a successful son. His death was sudden and those who learned of it must



Seniors: Choosing Isolation or Association

Feb 18th, 2011 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

Depending on your own nature, choosing between isolation and association becomes a variable for seniors as we age. We are met with the desire for peace, tranquility, reduced tension, and as little fret as possible. That would seem to argue for isolation, i.e. being set apart and left alone.

The other option is to be constantly occupied, busy, involved. Having something to do, someone around, some dynamic to stir the pot of energy or creating a synergy of activity are the desired means for behavior.

Neither is the “best choice.” As in most cases, what works for some doesn’t work for others. And, it is likely that many, maybe most, will want to develop a blend of balanced activity and quietude



Senior Friendships: Among Our Best Friends

Jun 16th, 2010 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

They may or may not know just how special they are. They may or may not realize the magnanimous gifts of sensitivity, genuine caring, thoughtful appreciation they have shared with us. They are jewels, brighter than the sun. They are precious, more luscious than the brook that runs by their Colorado home. They are stronger than the horses they allow us to ride through the mountain sides near their home. They are friends, family, precious, loving, caring human beings who have allowed us full welcome into their lives.

Time rushes by and we still know when we speak or share or communicate our special and exclusive words of affection that they are genuine, reserved, set aside only for them. Even their names are poetry… Joyce and John. They are animal lovers, but they are also lovers of the earth, caretakers of felines, rescue dogs, beautiful horses they share with others.