Posts Tagged ‘ senior friendships ’

CREATING NEW SENIOR FRIENDSHIPS

Sep 4th, 2013 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

Making new good friends enables seniors to maintain a healthy attitude about living. Moving offers the necessity to make new friends. To seek and find persons with whom solid and healthy relationships can be established enables settling in more comfortably and moving ahead becomes more easily done.

Putting off making friends is easy to do. Getting settled in usually becomes the priority. One move during our career offered the impetus for making new friends. A door was left ajar, thus permitting one of our dachshunds to escape. I didn’t realize then that that was the set up for making new friends. In the search for Zach, it was necessary to inquire if neighbors had noticed a wandering dog. We both found the dog and made new friends. On the very same day we were moving in our priority for making new friends had been



PHONE CALLS THAT MATTER MOST

Aug 2nd, 2013 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

My cousin, in remission from cancer, called this morning. He launched in by inquiring about my health. Persons who dare to approach those of us who are older and battling various weaknesses, do so with courage and at their own risk.

Fact is, most of us who are experiencing a variety of woes need the consolation of a sensitive ear. His voice always invites willingness to listen. His sensitivity, having gone through his own struggles, always resounds with empathy and thoughtfulness. His is one of those calls that matter most.

Truth is, the more we encounter the perils of aging, the more we need to be surrounded, in caring ways, by those



SENIORS DEVELOP LASTING FRIENDSHIPS

Jul 10th, 2013 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

If you have recently moved from a long time residence to an entirely different one, early on it will be critical, for your own satisfaction, to develop new and lasting friendships. Leaving persons behind who have meant much, for whom we have cared much, and whose absence in our lives will require initiative for replacement will be extremely important… both for companionship as well as for longevity. Research tells us that many factors contribute to longevity, including having a solid group of friends and positive thinking.

At church the other morning, I was glad to strike up a conversation with a long time member whose countenance seemed inviting. Indeed it was. The encounter was delicious, delightful and encouraging of future exchanges. It will require taking initiative and being open to his doing so. I have seldom found a person who doesn’t have an interesting life story, an intriguing



PEOPLE TO ADMIRE

Jun 11th, 2013 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

Selecting senior friends is best enabled by a process of judicious selection. Just look for those people who evoke admiration in you toward and about them. That makes the choosing easy and productive. Persons to admire include:

Those for whom self respect is an essential and primary behavior model.

Those who show unqualified interest in you and your life situation.

Those whose sense of humor is evident and frequent.



JUST FOR SUNDAY: 02/17/13

Feb 17th, 2013 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

Today I’m thinking about celebrating senior friends from a distance, because today is the birthday of one of my favorite people. Sent a greeting. Turned out not to say what I would like to say. Time and distance separate us and prevent our communicating how precious life’s memories and moments can be. To all those whose special occasions came and went and I was not there, know that when the stimulus of recall prompts, it is always a gift.

Now, there are new friends whose presence have enriched my life. If I did not know or failed to communicate that a special day came in your life, I ask forgiveness. This is that message that should have been which is superior to never was.



A MORNING RITUAL FOR SENIORS

Jan 31st, 2013 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

My 93 year old Mother and I share in a morning ritual. Sometime between 7 and 8 a.m., we begin our morning. By the time we have settled down for a first cup of coffee, we also share in reading the local paper together.

Her specialty is the variety of ads, particularly grocery ads and coupons, which she finds highly entertaining. We find lots to talk about as we wander through the variety of ads. Hearing aid ads give us a particular brand of laughter as we wonder at the ability of such frequent full page ads, until we discover the high cost of hearing.

The other day we found particular delight in searching for employment in the want ads. At our age,



Senior Socialization: Creating Senior Social Interactions & Relationships

Jan 21st, 2013 | By Guest Post | Category: Lifestyle, Health & Fitness

Social Interaction for Healthy Senior Living Friendships, companionship and interpersonal relationships are a human need at any age, especially for seniors who may not have the resources and health to leave home. As a caregiver, you may already feel the heavy responsibility of ensuring the health and wellbeing of your loved one. Your days may [...]



JUST FOR SUNDAY: 12/2/12

Dec 2nd, 2012 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

It is no small task to keep up with all the people, older friends, long time acquaintances whom seniors wish to remember at holiday time. Even with the Internet, it is still possible that they will have slipped between the cracks since last year. Moves, death, disability, choice, misplaced means for contact all contribute to our being absent to people who have long meant much to us. It is an undertaking to identify where they are now, what their life is like, how we are to be in touch with them.

Doing so, however, offers huge reward. Slipping the bonds of contact is not something we do intentionally. It just happens. And with that, we have misplaced a treasure of our life, never to be regained.

Before we are too deep into the holidays, seniors deserve to take the time to do the archeology necessary to uncover means for staying in touch with long time friends. It may require considerable digging. It may mean a minimal investment. It may take some phone calls. But once the discovery is made, the reward is



THE CALL I DIDN’T WANT TO MAKE

Nov 20th, 2012 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

These days, more and more, the message comes of one or another of long time friends, colleagues, and dear comrades who are in declining health. The news, while not always unexpected, nonetheless reaches deeply into the heart and pulls at memory and the tight bonds created years ago.

Such news prompts a recognition of the utter and irreplaceable value of those relationships, what they came to mean and how much the recall of them is so valued. Old friends, old times, old joys, old recollections, old and forever valued connections.

But, through an ordinary email, innocently, the news came of one of the finest human beings I have known and his struggle with major health issues. It rocks one a bit. It holds up the mirror of reality and reflects how much



WHEN FRIENDS REALLY ARE

Sep 18th, 2012 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

There is a commercial which depicts a guy loading a truck while in the process of moving. A neighbor shows up, the guy asks ” you wanna help?” The neighbor’s reply, “no, I’m good.” Not very good, if he can’t volunteer to do some heavy lifting.

We had dinner with friends a while back when the subject of our move was brought up. Without missing a beat, one of the guests said, “I’m great at packing. I’ll help.” And she has every day since beginning this arduous task. She and another friend have been here to do the necessary duty of helping us be ready for the movers.
Now that’s friendship! No one likes to move, it is an exhausting, seemingly never ending undertaking. No one likes to lift and wrap and pack and fit items in boxes until it is all done. But, some really do demonstrate a definition of friendship when they step up to the plate and are there for you and with you.