Posts Tagged ‘ meeting new friends ’

SENIORS DEVELOP LASTING FRIENDSHIPS

Jul 10th, 2013 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

If you have recently moved from a long time residence to an entirely different one, early on it will be critical, for your own satisfaction, to develop new and lasting friendships. Leaving persons behind who have meant much, for whom we have cared much, and whose absence in our lives will require initiative for replacement will be extremely important… both for companionship as well as for longevity. Research tells us that many factors contribute to longevity, including having a solid group of friends and positive thinking.

At church the other morning, I was glad to strike up a conversation with a long time member whose countenance seemed inviting. Indeed it was. The encounter was delicious, delightful and encouraging of future exchanges. It will require taking initiative and being open to his doing so. I have seldom found a person who doesn’t have an interesting life story, an intriguing



SENIORS: MAKING NEW FRIENDS

Oct 7th, 2011 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

Sometimes difficult and challenging, approaching persons to create an opening for a new friendship can be intimidating for most of us seniors. We were at an occasion recently in which we knew most of the guests. There were, however, a pair of couples that we had not met before. I took the initiative to approach the senior male of one couple and was quickly and summarily rebuffed. That doesn’t happen very often. I am, by nature, outgoing, conversational and friendly. Clearly none of of those attributes was well received.

Rather quickly I retreated. There were some lessons in that encounter. One of the mistakes I made was to place my hand on the man’s shoulder in an effort to establish a bond. That was likely a turn off for him. Some people are very clear about their personal space, and do not want it to be invaded by anyone.