Posts Tagged ‘ managing change ’


May 18th, 2012 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

Recently I was struck with a sudden awareness: Life styles can change. Seniors do not have to live according to the routines and ruts of previously made choices. We really can change what we do and how we behave and who we want to be. We can even decide to abscond and settle in another entirely different location. We can. All it takes is working through the particulars. And the particulars may be plentiful.

But, let’s not go there yet. Let’s just face the prospect of making a super radical choice to change a lot about ourselves. Moving to a new place, dumping lots of the stuff we have surrounded ourselves with over the years, choosing to clean out the attic of our minds. Making the choice to leave where we have lived for a decade and a half means leaving behind connections and friends and habits. What an upheaval! What excitement for the future!


Aug 24th, 2011 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

Second guessing is like wishing… useless, unproductive, aimless and a waste of time and thought. Engaging in “If I had only” or “should have dones” is a pursuit leading only to dead ends. Deciding to put your energy into what you can do and doing it is a far wiser course. So why do we get detoured by reflecting and trying to change outcomes that have already taken their shape and produced their consequences?

Likely, one of the reasons is that we just can’t believe our earlier choice is now completely out of our control. Thinking we are smart enough to have made a different, more palatable choice, seems to haunt us. But the haunting does not alter the outcome. Putting aside a decision, once made, as the one we were equipped to make at the time, is a way to move on. Dwelling on a choice previously made does not in any way affect your own circumstances. If anything, it just makes them worse. “Oh, how