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THE SADNESS OF AN ELDERLY LOVED ONE LOST BEFORE DYING

Nov 30th, 2011 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

There is an enormous loss when a loved one begins checking out before dying. The occasion is demonstrated in a variety of forms, over a period of time, but when it becomes evident to the observer, it is too late to ask those last lingering questions that are now locked behind those eyes and in that mind that no longer functions well. It is sad. It is painful. The recognition comes that what once was able to be shared so readily is now cocooned in a dark somewhere, impossible to plumb. If it is there, it is behind locked doors for which there is no key. Being able to say those remarkably precious words, “do you remember?” no longer applies. An end to one journey and the start of another has begun.

Paranoia, dementia, Alzheimer’s, other cognitive functions and inabilities begin to show their ugly face. They take the form of sheer forgetfulness of selected things at first, and then more generic, more and more. Anger and paranoia are