Posts Tagged ‘ imminent death ’

SAYING GOODBYE

Mar 1st, 2013 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

The occasion to say goodbye is one of the experiences of aging all of us must struggle to meet. My 93 year old mother has begun to find ways to articulate how to do that for herself. She recognizes the need to identify those to whom saying good bye needs to be intentional. She is aware of the various steps, not so numerous because of her long life, that will nonetheless need to be laid out.

Among the most difficult features of this experience is saying farewell to those who have meant and continue to mean the most. She will need to articulate to as many as will be available her deep and abiding affection while consciousness allows the opportunity to say what she wants to say in her own words.



FOR SENIORS: WHEN MORTALITY KNOCKS

Aug 9th, 2012 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

The next door neighbor to my Mom in the Care Facility where she resides heard the knock of mortality this past week. Surgery introduced him and us to how close it is. He returned from the hospital with the message, shared by the physicians, that it is now only a matter of time. Not a pleasing message to hear. Not an encouraging word to ready oneself for what’s next. Complications from surgery brought the message home. Sometimes, it seems, living with things as they are may be better than trying to trick mortality out of a “little while longer.” Whatever the circumstances now it is a matter of keeping the patient comfortable and patiently await the inevitable. Not a pleasant prospect, in any case.

And yet, when mortality knocks there are several available options to consider. They are, by definition, not