Posts Tagged ‘ elderly friendships ’

SENIORS ADJUST TO THE LOSS OF FRIENDS

Mar 13th, 2012 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

One of the most difficult of life’s experiences, as we age, is the loss of long time friends. It seems to come suddenly, when, for the most part, the process has been in place for weeks or months. We don’t hear from someone for a long time, and we wonder. We fail to be in touch, and we excuse ourselves. We get out of the habit of inquiring of those who might know. We just lose touch.

Then, suddenly, unexpectedly, sometimes shockingly, the news comes. “Oh, haven’t you heard, she died a week ago?” The ache settles in. The awareness that you hadn’t taken any initiative to find out how she was doing catches you up. The sudden realization that another one is gone begins to strike you. Living out your own agendas finds you often unawares and frequently forgetting that others, like you, are aging too. They have their issues and needs and circumstances that are contributing to your not hearing from



Dealing with Opinionated Seniors

Nov 26th, 2010 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

You probably know the type… the ones who challenge your patience, endurance and tolerance. People who are always right, no matter the subject, make it difficult for us senior citizens to extend grace.

No matter what position one takes, they always take the opposite one. No matter the subject at hand, they always can find something to disagree over it. No matter the conversation’s direction, they can attempt to redirect it to their point of view. It is a real conundrum. You may want to share the company of the person, but you really find it too much to try to engage in a one sided, “By damn, I am right” experience.

Each time it happens it is even more draining. It is as if the individual’s whole persona depends on their being right