Posts Tagged ‘ elderly friends dying ’

Leaning On Others

Jun 16th, 2015 | By Sharon Shaw Elrod MSW EdD | Category: Senior Moments Blog

No matter how prepared we seniors think we are for change and loss, especially the death of friends and family, we’re still shocked when it happens. We experience a lot of loss as we age. It’s the nature of life.

However, the shock of loss seems to be related to the finality of death. When a loved one dies, life as we know it on this earth is done. Finished. No more conversations. No more walks. No more holidays together. It’s all over. The loved one is gone, and you are left to figure out how to live the rest of your life.



SENIORS ADJUST TO THE LOSS OF FRIENDS

Mar 13th, 2012 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

One of the most difficult of life’s experiences, as we age, is the loss of long time friends. It seems to come suddenly, when, for the most part, the process has been in place for weeks or months. We don’t hear from someone for a long time, and we wonder. We fail to be in touch, and we excuse ourselves. We get out of the habit of inquiring of those who might know. We just lose touch.

Then, suddenly, unexpectedly, sometimes shockingly, the news comes. “Oh, haven’t you heard, she died a week ago?” The ache settles in. The awareness that you hadn’t taken any initiative to find out how she was doing catches you up. The sudden realization that another one is gone begins to strike you. Living out your own agendas finds you often unawares and frequently forgetting that others, like you, are aging too. They have their issues and needs and circumstances that are contributing to your not hearing from