SHARING AS A ROUTINE FOR SENIORSSep 5th, 2012 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog
Sharing Gives Meaning to Life
Developing a routine of sharing can be another way seniors can bring pleasure to a relationship. Because so many restaurant meals are huge in their proportions, many seniors find themselves sharing a meal. Added to that is the pleasure of cooperatively deciding what you will have. Critiquing your choice then becomes an easy undertaking.
Sharing is a behavior that gives extra meaning to life. Couples have found that sharing allows for blending in many ways. It enables more discovery of finding, even after years of being together, new ways to reinforce a relationship. People who share are good to be around.
We spent a couple of nights with friends in another city. They live on horse property. They share chores and responsibilities with adjoining neighbors, when one or the other is away. Neighbors have a unique opportunity to share, thus making the joy of neighborliness more satisfying. Seniors can be good at sharing. There is so much time and so many occasions for offering availability for sharing. Getting into the routine is a matter of being observant, discovering ways to be available to someone who may need an extra hand.
Many Times and Ways to Share
When illness strikes, that is a good time to share caring. Without compromising one’s own health, running errands and other household needs can be a way a senior can share with a senior.
As demands seem more difficult to meet, particularly in yard work, sharing the task is a way neighbors can be helpful to one another. It also allows for getting to know one another better. The benefits of sharing outweigh the costs.
Sharing enables persons to offer other persons the chance to avoid loneliness, a malady peculiar to seniors. While some seniors may rebuff the attention that comes with sharing, that ‘no’ probably needs to be evaluated.
Sharing is not done in order to obligate someone else to “pay you back.” It is an act of thoughtfulness and grace. Sharing can be offering assistance, baking a cake and sharing it, helping to trim shrubbery, spending a morning with someone recovering from surgery, offering to do whatever needs doing. It is an act of grace. It does not expect reciprocity. It is a gift, without strings. It also is a way to cultivate genuine and good qualities of behavior.
Begin by being aware of what’s going on around you, discover some need, act on the need and then repeat the behavior.