Seniors: When Pain and Hurt Strike

Sep 30th, 2010 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

Most of us are familar with the presence and discomfort of pain and hurt in our lives.  Sometimes it makes itself known  physically.  At others it is pyschological.  On still other occasions it is introduced as deeply emotional.  It has ramifications all too exacting, all too real, all too sudden. 

When it comes, we expect that it may be something that can be managed.  But, its presence may be surprising and may catch us completely off guard.  After all, how is it that persons who have shared life together can come to that moment when pain and hurt dominate the years of commitment and shared living?  How is it that persons who have known the depths of familial acquaintance can come to that moment of traumatic alienation? And, how is it that that experience is recognized for what it is, not a fleeting moment of separation, but a dramatic and heart rending occasion of sheer and utter disowning of one another?

Such are the moments which interfere with the ebb and flow of life and living.  Suddenly all the commitment that has been so generously shared is caught up in the maelstrom of a storm of misunderstanding.   Suddenly the fabric of life’s most important relationships is rent asunder by a word or an act or a deed that was never meant to carry such weight.

  Families who have lived by the creed of commitment and love and loyalty and absolute dedication are suddenly met with division and separation.  Oh, how sad it can be.  Oh, how painful it is.  Oh, how momentous the schism. 

How is a cure enabled?  How does one or two or both or more come to that time when they understand that this fracture must be repaired? How is that the remedy of love and compassion is brought back into the picture?  How can all parties loose their pride and ego and stubborness long enough to invite the tenderness of caring back into the circle?

Such pains come and sometime never go.  It leaves a sadness and a void within a relationship that may unfortunately reside within the circle long beyond its welcome.  When it does persons are left with scars and aches and cravings for reconciliation that, without reciprocity, never are available ever again. 

These are the pains and hurts which require more than the attention of a physician, the balm of a salve, the application of a well known remedy.  Such healing, however, longs for release.  Relationships and familial concord are essential to the fortitude of individuals and the ready recovery of healthy families. 

When struck with such pain, someone surely will be mature enough to offer the initiative which starts the healing.  Without it, life will lose a moment, a friend, a family member that cannot be regained.  Offer love, offer caring, offer understanding, offer your heart.



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