Apr 16th, 2012 | By | Category: Senior Moments Blog

Managing Negative Experiences

The following is a list, likely not unique to me, of things I simply don’t want to experience.   They are all life threatening.  You may already have been through some of these uninvited moments.  They have little appeal to most of us and no attraction as something through which we might go.  For any of these we have not experienced, let us be thankful.

My spouse suggested that the list alone is too much of a downer, thus prompting me to try to put a different twist on it. So rather than just listing what I don’t want to go through, I’m adding what can be done by any one of us to attempt to avoid or at least manage the negative experience.

  • Being in a tornado, or other major disaster, and being directly affected by it.

<If you live in Tornado Alley, be prepared for the possibility of a severe weather related storm when you hear the forecast.   Stay tuned to the weather channel and other means for information which may help you be fully prepared.>

  • Having a heart attack or experiencing a stroke.

<Take necessary measures to stay heart healthy including regular check ups, watching your diet, reducing or eliminating smoking and or alcohol, getting sufficient exercise and rest.>

  • Going through major surgery

<Avoid the necessity by taking measures to keep your body healthy and your physician aware of what’s going on that might contribute to the possibility.>.

  • Being in a major automobile accident in which there is injury or death.

<Accidents happen and are sometimes unavoidable.  In the case of older drivers, there are numerous precautions to be taken to keep you safe and those might include staying out of the driver’s seat.>

  • Losing someone close to me suddenly and unexpectedly.

<This is another of those issues over which we may not have control.  If it occurs, participate in the dying in ways that brings comfort and support to the individual and those who surround him or her.>

  • Experiencing permanent immobility.

<This is another tough one.  However, many who experience it have found ways to cope.  Depending upon the nature of the disability, sustaining one’s own ability to exercise independence  and productive living will be the challenge to keep on keeping on.>

  • Contracting cancer and discovering it is incurable.

<Determine to make the most of one’s life, when faced with such a diagnosis; it is a superior challenge both for the patient and family.  Such provides opportunity to demonstrate true courage and witness for dealing with an insidious disease.>

None of us would want to be faced with any of these dreaded possibilities.  Thinking about being faced with one or more of them will not contribute to their happening, but will enable the conviction to be courageous and prepared. Assisting members of your family in dealing with the issue will be another way of demonstrating your own faith and ability to be strong.

Death need not be macabre, but can be an occasion when the quality of your life can be best evidenced. Being strong in the face of those attacks that may come our way can be the source of sharing your strength with others.

<Overlooked here, likely because it is so frightening, is Alzheimers.>

Dealing with this one will take all the emotional fortitude and strength one can muster.  It is debilitating to all who are touched by it.  Developing readiness and wherewital to cope with it both for and with the one who has contracted it and yourself, who must be there, will be the most demanding of all those things we had rather not go through.

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