Seniors: Taking Charge

Nov 24th, 2009 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

Assertiveness is a natural behavior for some.  For others, it is the most exacting challenge a person can imagine.  Allowing others to take charge is often done out of sense of  low self esteem, little confidence, willingness to just let someone else take over.  It can also be discouraging, demoralizing, and damaging. 

In the presence of persons whose tendency is to “take charge,” some retreat quickly into silence, inability to join in, difficulty in sharing in the social dynamics of  the group.  At such times, it behooves others to raise their awareness of how someone else needs to be encouraged to enter the conversation.  Persons who are particularly vocal may find it hard to surrender their control, but exercising courtesy and thoughtfulness may exhibit more wisdom than whatever is being said. 

Taking charge in a meeting, a conversation, a social setting, a chance encounter may mean asking questions, offering pause so that someone else can enter in.  It is a gesture of genuine respect to stand aside.

Entering the holiday season when family members get together who haven’t seen each other in a while, may require some reminders.  It may be useful to remind yourself that being with others, hearing their stories, allowing them their moment of importance and involvement is as critical as pushing in ahead of the line to get your story out. 

For those who know me well, they may believe this is a confession.  Perhaps it is.  But it is also a reminder that it is never too late to learn the lessons of civility and good manners.



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