Seniors: Some Musings About Death

Jun 1st, 2011 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

It seems that this issue comes to the fore more often than we would like as we grow older.  Someone is met with a major emergency, requiring a quick trip to the emergency room, a transfer to a room awaiting surgery,  a surgical procedure and then the long wait for stabilization.  Then, before we know it things go south and life takes on a tragic, dramatic, sudden dimension requiring rapid response.

Most, who are met with the issue of someone having died, are faced with having to understand how they fit in, if they were close to the deceased, or had some clue about their lives and the disposition of their estates. 

It always varies how such matters are addressed.  Sometimes it includes those who were close, but not family.  Much of the time all of the particulars are left to someone in the family.  Such matters, most appropriately rightly should be left to someone so designated before death occurs. 

Such matters are always subject to needing clarification and cooperation among those most intimately involved. 

Motivations will vary.  Sometimes those motivations are driven by deep affection, awareness of the emotional dynamics involved.  At others, greed drives decision making.  Often, the outcome has a very emotionally troubling dimension accompanying it.  At others, everyone is on the same page and comes out demonstrating appropriate caring and compassion at such a time.  But, such can be the exception. 

Death and living often take on differing perceptions.  The one who has died has now passed on, is beyond the veil, no longer influences anybody or anything.

Such is the way of families and death.  Death can be mean, cruel and unyielding.  It can also be freeing and affirming, deep in the compassion of having been and wanting to  be an example of love.  It does not always gain acceptance and demonstrate such behavior among those who are left. 

Let us now praise those who have been wise and sensitive enough to recognize those, from among our dearest, who cared the most, who demonstrated over and again their love, without qualification, who showed what it means to be there for the one who needed it when they needed it most.



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