Seniors: Coping With the Top 10 Worries (Part 1 of 3)

Dec 15th, 2009 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

If you are a chronic worrier, then one of the big time motivations for the new year needs to be learning to harness or cope with one or more of the top ten of those worries that seem to plague you daily.  If you come up with a list greater than ten, you may very likely need to consider some professional counseling which will help you dig beneath and excavate the real stuff that is going on with you and your psyche.

Folk past 70 typically harbor several worries, or, if you prefer, concerns.  Some are frankly minor and can be rather easily reduced to the dust bin of “no worry at all.”  Others are, however, more serious, more convoluted and more difficult to identify and address.

Let’s see if we can come up with some generic worries, deserving of both attention and action.

*Sexual prowess, interest and desire.  This one has promptings that are the result of both aging and physical changes.  Usually, beccause of the nature of this worry, it is best to seek out a sex counselor to identify the variety of causal factors and realistic ways for addressing the issue.  Medications and counseling usually go hand in hand to begin identifying ways to create stimulation, desire and satisfaction.  In some cases, there may be limitations on sexual  activity and a new set of expectations and consequences will need to be introduced to allow intimacy to remain a part of your relationship. 

*Loss of energy, lack of stamina, overall malaise. Exercise is one of the most difficult of disciplines to maintain.  It is, however, the recommended regimen for holding off indifference, muscle loss, joint pain and stiffness and minor aches and pains.  After getting past the first few weeks of an exercise program, usually the body reflects the benefits of the exercise program.  The difficulty, as in dieting, is to keep up the activity on a regularly scheduled basis.  As hard as that is to do, it is likely the only way to look your body’s weaknesses in the face and get on with a rewarding way to overcome downright laziness. 

*Loss of Social acquaintances and interaction. Keeping active social interactions going is more important to some than others.  Clearly, stimulus is a word of genuine import when dealing with issues that relate to growing older.  Keeping your body, mind, endorphins, social life active and healthy is a part of overall good health and presence. Sustaining friendships and taking the steps to be sure those friendships remain well cultivated is the best means for heading off the loneliness and isolation that can ensue from the absence or loss of good friends.  It takes work, staying in touch, reaching out, being there for others when you expect them to be there for you.  The payoff is heading off the loss and diminishing the worry.  

*Losing your spouse or partner.  This is, of course, one of the big time worries for any of us who is connected either romantically, legally  or in whatever manner defines connectedness.  Primary relationships are those that give us the most fulfillment and satisfaction and reward.  It is these relationships upon which we draw for emotional strength, supportive help, literally being held up at times that are most threatening and potentially devastating. Your partner is the one to whom you look for a shoulder, an arm, a hand, an ear, a heart, a hug.  Like friends, which partners of course are, it takes work to keep the relationship strong, vital and creative.  Don’t stop being considerate.  Don’t hesitate to express your love.  Don’t quit keeping the relationship the primary one of importance in your life.

Tomorrow: the Worries to be Addressed are:  Major Financial Loss;  Having to Resume Employment.  

The following day:  Moving into  Assisted Care or Nursing Home Facility; Death.



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