Fathers, Show How Much You Care

Jun 18th, 2010 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

It never comes too late for a father to express his affection and devotion for his children.  Senior fathers may not always have done it, maybe don’t even do it well yet, but fathers know, in the deep of their hearts, how dear their children, at whatever age, really are.  Sure, you may have missed a lot with your kids.  Sure you may have sloughed off the responsibility to be there for and with them when you might have.  But to continue a pattern of indifference is no excuse at your age now.  If fathers haven’t learned how to be sensitive to the feelings of their family, there is something deeply wrong with the father, not the family.

There are dozens of things I wish I had done, those might have beens, now long gone.  There are behaviors for which I am deeply ashamed.  There were times when I crawled into a book or watched that dreadful monster in the den, showing no awareness that there were others with whom I could engage.  But, all of that is gone.  Try as I might, I can never bring them back.  What I can do is find ways to communicate caring and awareness,  listening and understanding.  Lacking that, pal, you will really miss the boat.  Money never buys affection.  Gifts are thoughtful, but just being there is the best gift of all.  He will always know that he can count on you, if you let him know in the most genuine actions possible that you are there for him.   She will always know how precious you are as a father, if you can embrace her and be by her when she needs it most. 

Fathers have a most unusual task.  We aren’t taught well how to behave as fathers.  We aren’t always sure how best to telegraph our feelings.  We stumble, bumble around and often fall on our own faces.  Inside, we know we mess up.  Inside, we want to be that ideal father who always says the right thing and says it.  We never want to be “just that guy” who lives in the house with our children or grandchildren, when they visit us.  We want to let them know how much we love them and how dear they are to us.  We want them to grasp that there are feelings within us that are worthy of sharing.  We want them to know that we are capable of hugs and even kisses.  We want them to know how precious and wonderful and profoundly important they are to our lives. We want them to know that we are still struggling to be the best kind of Dad we can be.



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