Archive for May 2013

#2 – LESSONS IN CAREGIVING

May 3rd, 2013 | By Sharon Shaw Elrod MSW EdD | Category: Senior Moments Blog

Someone recently said to me, “I do not want to die with any regrets.” My life-long statement to self has been, “I want to be proud of what I do and say.” This was certainly true of the six months we spent caregiving. Did I live up to that totally? No. Did I get close? Yes. I learned that, because there is life after caregiving, I needed to conduct myself so I would not end up with regrets.

By far the most difficult situations we encountered caregiving for my mother-in-law centered around her safety. Momma never got her fair share of common sense and good judgment in life. Health care professionals, particularly in rehab after she broke her hip for the third time, consistently identified her lack of judgment as a major problem in her rehabilitation. So we came to her last days still trying to manage her safety in the face of her poor judgment.



WHEN YOU ARE THE LAST ONE LEFT

May 2nd, 2013 | By Dr Jerry D Elrod | Category: Senior Moments Blog

If you are the last of your family, as all the other significant members have passed on, an empty hole, hard, if not impossible, to fill, seems to characterize your emotional state. At 74, and an only child, losing my parents has meant that that mysterious connectedness which has been with me all my life is now in the past. You are now quite alone. Although you likely have created other significant alliances that have helped you get through life, those most intimate and emotionally significant to you are now gone.

Those who have enjoyed and celebrated having siblings or geographically close relatives of one ilk or another have the memorable joy of some important unions. Some find the fraternity of long time friends to be helpful in cementing significant relationships. There is, for most of us, the need to



#1 -LESSONS IN CAREGIVING

May 1st, 2013 | By Sharon Shaw Elrod MSW EdD | Category: Senior Moments Blog

One of the benefits of being a senior citizen these days is the joy of admitting we have a lot yet to learn. We don’t have to prove ourselves any longer. We can just be ourselves, open to learning whatever new behaviors and insights happen to come along our way.

Such is the case with our most recent caregiving experience. It was actually the first time we had taken on the responsibility of care for another human being. I had always insisted I wasn’t a nurse and didn’t want to be one. But when faced with the choice of caring for my 93 year old mother-in-law in our home, I didn’t hesitate. She had been a loving and caring person all her life; it was time for that love and care to be returned to her in her last days.